The four agreement- Don Miguel Ruiz

The four agreement- Don Miguel Ruiz

This fabulous book teaches you some principles that are going to change your life forever if you practice doing them in each and every day of your life. The four agreements that it teaches are: be impeccable with your words, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions, and always do your best. We, human beings, are images of light; we are God. We are so powerful that we can’t even imagine. Everything that we do or say has power. Our thoughts have power; our words are powerful. So, be careful of what you say, think, or do. Never underestimate the power of your words, thoughts, and actions. Always remember that you are a mirror for the other people; a mirror in which you can see yourself.

 

 

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Third chapter:The second agreement
The second agreement is dont take anything personally.The second agreement says that, what happens around you, dont take it personally.All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in.Others are going to have their own opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about you is realy about you, but it is about them.
Fear is the main cause of lies, jealouse or sad.If you live without fear, if you love, there is no place for any of those emotions.In fact, when you feel good, every thing around you is good, and every thing make you happy.When you make it a strong habit not to take any thing personally, you avoid many upsets in your life, your anger , jealouy ,and envey will disapear and even your sdness will simply disapear. Infact, A huge amount of freedom that comes to you. Just you need practice this second agreement, you will need to trust yourself and make responsible choice and no one can hurt you.

Atena Raoufi

THE THIRD AGREEMENT

Don’t Make Assumptions

 
The Third Agreement tells us that instead of making assumptions, we should ask questions instead.
We often jump to conclusions and make assumptions that are wildly wrong. If you say “hi” to a friend, and they don’t reply, you would perhaps make the assumption that they were mad at you without any real evidence.
When you have trouble understanding something, you assume you know what it means. When things become clear, you can see that it means something else entirely.
We also make assumptions about ourselves, such as whether or not we can do a particular task well. We might think we can, fail, and then feel bad for overestimating our abilities. In reality, we may just have needed to ask more questions to make it a success.
You need to replace assumptions with questions instead. This can be difficult, but it’s the only way to get the answers you need.

Sahar Arfaei

THE SECOND AGREEMENT Don’t Take Anything Personally The next four agreements are derived from the first one. The second agreement is “Don’t take anything personally.” For example, if someone calls you stupid, it’s not really about you; they’re just projecting their own insecurities onto you. When a person does this to me and I think that everyone can see how stupid I am, then I’m agreeing with them (and taking it personally). This leads to an illusion of importance and traps me in hell. The author believes that other people’s actions are not a direct reflection of you. They do things because they have their own dreams and goals, which may be completely different from your own. Even if someone insults you directly, it has nothing to do with you—they’re simply projecting their insecurities onto you. If we take personal insults personally, then we’re taking on the emotional baggage of others and carrying around “poison” within us. However, if we don’t take anything personally, then we can be immune to these attacks and remain unaffected by them. Ruiz says that if you get mad at someone, hate someone or are jealous of someone, it means you’re afraid. If you’re not afraid of anything else, then those feelings won’t come up when dealing with other people. You’ll be too busy loving yourself and everyone around you to feel any negative emotions. In short, Ruiz believes we should all strive to live in a state of bliss where we love everything around us because we love ourselves and are content with our lives. The mind is capable of talking to itself and listening at the same time. When it’s doing this, we experience a noisy marketplace of conflicting beliefs that are all arguing with each other. The noise makes us feel confused about what we want. To calm this chaos, Ruiz suggests making an inventory of our agreements, exposing conflicts among them, and making order out of the chaos. practicing the second agreement makes you immune to triggers that cause unnecessary suffering. If someone says something negative about you, it won’t bother you because it’s not personal. You’ll be able to trust yourself and know that your actions are what matter, not other people’s opinions of them. You’ll also be able to share love with others without worrying about being judged or rejected by them in return.

Saeed Izadpanah

The third agreement
The third agreement is don’t make assumptions. We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything.
All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and talking things personally.
We great a lot of emotional poison just by making assumptions and thinking in personally.
The big mitote in the human mind creates a lot of chaos which causes us to misinterpret everything and misunderstand everything.
We have that habit of dreaming with no basis in reality.
An example:you are walking in the mall and you see a person you like that person turns to you and smiles, and then walks away.
Maybe you even get married in this fantasyland but the fantasy in your mind.
In your personal dream. Another example:you deside to get married, and you make the assumption that your partner sees marriage, the same way that you do.
It’s very interesting how the human mind works. We have the need to justify everything, to explain and understand everything, in order to feel sake this assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have agreement to communicate this way.
We don’t need to justify love, it is there or not there.
Just imagine the day that you stop making assumptions with your partner and eventually with everyone else in your life.
The third agreement, don’t make assumptions.
We have all these labits and routines that we are not even aware of.
When you transform your whole dream, magic just happens in your life.
What you need comes to you easily because spirit moves freely through you.

Hamed Ashkar

Chapter 1
Domestication and the dream of the plant
Everything humanity perceives is a dream. The mind pre pet rally dreams. The dreams are framed in a linear way when we are awake and in a nonlinear way when we are as loop- but in both cases we are still dreaming. Humans are born with the capacity to dream and we are taught to dream in the way that society dreams (the dream of the planet) we learn to dream like society by focusing our attention on the outhunt figures that teach us, like our parent teacher, and religious.
The dream of the planet includes concepts like what to believe. How to behave what’s good and bad. What’s beautiful an ugly. These concepts hook us through language, which is like a cod full of agreement that we all understand this process call: the domestication of human domestication teaches us how to live and what to believe. As children, we are domesticated the some way animals are: by a system of punishment and reward when human beings are domesticated we internalize all our agreement into a mental book of low which we use to constantly judge ourselves another. True justice, is only paying once for each mistake we make, but domestication makes us pay many times for our mistake.
Hamed Ashkar

Chapter 2
The first agreement is necessary both simple and powerful this is the most challenging of the four agreements to uphold it is enough to turn your reality into heaven on earth. Word is a magical force that creates reality it a con create a beautiful dream.
Ruiz compares words to magic that can put us under a spell or release us from a spell. The word “impeccable” means not going against yourself. Misusing word is black magic that puts my ruder fear driven spells. We often use “black magic” on people magic on people we love without realizing it.
Hamed Ashkar

Chapter 3
don’t take anything personality
The rest of the agreements follow from the first agreement. The second agreement is “don’t take anything” personally. If a person call you stupid that’s volley about the person and not about you and you start becoming trapped in the dream of hell you get trapped because of personal importance” you think everything is about you.
Ruiz that noting other people do is because of you the do things because of their dream in their own mind, which is completely different from your dream in your mind. Usually when you thank something personally you are offended and want to defend you own different be life which creator conflict.
Ruiz believes that when you get mad at someone hate some’re, or are jealous of someone, you are really dealing with your own fear.
You will be loving everything around you because you love yourself and you are content with who you are and how you live your life.
Hamed Ashkar

Chapter 4
Don’t make Assumptions
We believe they are the truth. We assume we know that other people think or feel and we subsequently blame them and send emotional Polson their way. Making assumptions just created problems and we should avoid doing that. The third agreement is don’t make assumptions. It’s always better to ask than to assume the chaos in our minds to ask than to assume. The chaos in our minds causes us to misinterpret everything: we only see and hear what we want to believe and we dream thing up all the time that have no basis in reality a lot of problems in relationships come from making assumptions: we often assume our partner know what we are thinking or what we want and get upset when they don’t we also often make assumptions about ourselves that cause internal conflict.
It’s hard to stop making assumptions because it’s our habit to assume. So first we need to be aware of habits, then we need to act differently ever and ever again until are from new habits if you make this agreement habit. You will transform from a black magician into white magician and you will muster you internet, spin, love and life l itself.
Hamed Ashkar

Ghazale Saleh

summary of chapter 1;
Ruiz says that when human beings are domesticated, we internalize all our “agreements” into a mental “Book of Law” which we use to constantly judge ourselves and others. When we judge ourselves, part of ourselves is a “Victim” who believes we are not good enough, and part of ourselves is a “Judge” who reinforces that “Yes, you are not good enough.” When we break the rules in our internal book, we experience fear, blame, guilt, and shame. When we comply, we feel safe

summary of chapter 2;
To be impeccable with your word means to always use words in a positive way. For example, if someone calls you stupid, that person is also hurting themselves because they’re sending “emotional poison” out into the world. If you love yourself and express that love outwardly, then other people will respond positively to you. Ruiz says it’s very hard to be impeccable with your word because we are taught from an early age not to express our truths but rather judge others and create divisions between us. These misuses of words perpetuate fear and reinforce the idea of hell (the opposite of heaven.

summary of chapter 3;
The next four agreements are derived from the first one. The second agreement is “Don’t take anything personally.” For example, if someone calls you stupid, it’s not really about you; they’re just projecting their own insecurities onto you. When a person does this to me and I think that everyone can see how stupid I am, then I’m agreeing with them (and taking it personally). This leads to an illusion of importance and traps me in hell

summary of chapter 4;
.We often make assumptions about ourselves and others that cause us to experience internal conflict. For example, we might think that we are better or worse than someone else because of a situation that we face. We also assume what is good for the other person is good for us and vice versa. When this happens in relationships, it causes conflict when one party wants something different from the other person. This isn’t real love according to Ruiz; you should only accept your partner as they are if they want to be with you too. If not, then leave them since you can never truly love someone who doesn’t love you back just the way you are.

Sahar Arfaei

First chapter:
(Domestication and the Dream of the Planet)
Society teaches us through our parents,
teachers, religious officiants all of these authorities teach us what society thinks is right or wrong based on their own perspective .Ruiz calls this process “the domestication of humans”. He says that we are trained to become like the people around us. Ruiz says that when we are domesticated, we develop a mental system
of rules and beliefs. We judge ourselves by our own standards in this
system, which is called the “Book of Law.” A part of us becomes a victim who believes that we aren’t good enough; another part becomes
an enforcer or judge who reinforces those beliefs.

Sahar Arfaei

Second chapter:
(Be Impeccable with Your Word)
Ruiz believes this is one of the hardest agreements to uphold, but once you do, it will change your life for the better. Your word has magical powers that shape your reality; it can create a beautiful dream or an ugly
one depending on how you use it. To be impeccable with your word means to always use words in a positive way.The author is planting a seed in your mind. If you nurture it, you’ll be able to break agreements that make you suffer and start living life as if “heaven on earth” were possible

Sahar Arfaei

Forth chapter:
A lot of problems in relationships come from assumptions. When we assume things about others, they can get offended because they don’t know what’s going on in our heads. We also make assumptions that the people closest to us know what we’re thinking and feeling, but then we become angry when those people don’t read our minds. It’s hard to stop making assumptions because it’s a habit. First, we need to be aware of our habits and then act differently until we form new habits. Ruiz thinks that if you make this agreement a habit, you will transform from a “black magician” into a “white magician” and master your intent, spirit, love, gratitude and life itself. 

Mehrab Ebrahimi

First chapter:Domestication and the Dream of the Planet:
ruiz believes that everything humanity perceives is a dream. The mind perpetually dreams. The dreams are framed in a linear way when we are awake and in a nonlinear way when we are asleep but in both cases, we are still dreaming. Humans are born with the capacity to dream, and we are taught to dream in the way that society dreams (“the dream of the planet”). We learn to dream like society by focusing our attention on the authority figures that teach us, like our parents, teachers, and religious officiants. The “dream of the planet” includes concepts like what to believe, how to behave, what’s good and bad, what’s beautiful and ugly, and many other things. These concepts “hook” us through language, which is like a code full of agreements that we all
.understand
for Ruiz, “true justice” is only paying once for each mistake we make, but domestication makes us pay many times for our mistakes. We judge ourselves when we make a mistake, but also every time we remember a mistake and every time somebody else reminds us of our mistake. Effectively, we feel perpetually guilty and constantly punish ourselves or create “emotional poison.” Ruiz believes that 95 percent of the agreements we have internalized are false and that “we suffer because we believe all these lies.”

Mehrab Ebrahimi

Second chapter: The first agreement:
The “first agreement” Ruiz believes to be necessary is both simple and powerful: “be impeccable with your word.” Ruiz thinks this is the most challenging of the four agreements to uphold but if you can uphold it, it’s enough to turn your reality into “heaven on earth.” Ruiz believes that you express your creative power through “your word.” Everything you believe about what you are, what you dream, and what you feel is conjured by your word. Your word is a magical “force” that creates your reality it can create a beautiful dream or an ugly dream.
The word “impeccable” means not going against yourself. For example, if someone call you stupid, the person is not just harming you they’re also harming themselves, because the person is sending toxic judgment, or “emotional poison” out, which encourages you to judge the person in return. If, however, a person love themselves, they will express that love toward others and they will receive love in return. For Ruiz, being “impeccable with your word” means always using your words to generate “truth and love for yourself.” It’s a very difficult agreement to uphold because we are indoctrinated to use words in the opposite way: to judge, to blame, to hate, and to create divisions between people, families, races, and nations. These misuses of words create fear and reinforce the “dream of hell.”

Mehrab Ebrahimi

Third chapter:Don’t Take Anything Personally:
The rest of the agreements follow from the first agreement. The second agreement is “don’t take anything personally.” For example, if a person doesn’t know you but they call you “stupid,” that’s really about the person and not about you. You might wonder how the person knows this about you, and if everyone can see that too. When you think in that way, however, you’re agreeing with the person or, taking it personally and you start becoming trapped in “the dream of hell.” You get trapped because of “personal importance”: you think everything is about you.
Usually, when you take something personally, you’re offended and want to defend your own different beliefs, which creates conflict. You feel the need to be right and for others to be wrong. But everything you believe just reflects your own agreements . Instead, Ruiz says you could do as he does, and believe that what somebody else thinks about you is not important to you. You don’t take it personally because it’s a reflection of their dream, their beliefs, and their problems not yours. Nothing another person says is about you at all; it’s always about them, about the “movie” they play in their mind.

Mehrab Ebrahimi

Fourth chapter:Don’t Make Assumptions:
When we make assumptions, Ruiz says, we believe they are the truth. We assume we know what other people think or feel and we subsequently blame them and send “emotional poison” their way. Making assumptions just creates problems and drama, and we should avoid doing that. As such, the third agreement is, “don’t make assumptions.” Often, we are “afraid to ask for clarification,” so we make assumptions that we defend and base gossip on. We try to prove that we are right and others are wrong, which creates a whole lot of suffering. Ruiz thinks it’s always better to ask than to assume.
A lot of problems in relationships come from making assumptions: we often assume our partners know what we’re thinking or what we want, and get upset when they don’t. We assume that our friends, family, and other important people know us so well that we don’t have to communicate what we want, then we get upset when those people don’t read our minds. Ruiz thinks we make assumptions because we believe it’s not safe to ask questions. Our biggest assumption is thinking that everyone else thinks the way we do. We are afraid to be ourselves around others because we are afraid that they will judge, blame, and criticize us the way we judge, blame, and criticize ourselves.

Zahra Siadati

Some quotes which i choose from this chapter :

“What they say, what they do, and the opinions they have are according to the agreements they have in their own minds”.
“Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, these black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up. …and now it becomes your garbage. But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity to poison in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement”.
“Even your opinions about yourself are not necessarily true”.
“If others say one thing, but do another, you are lying to yourself if you don’t listen to their actions’.
“If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from

Zahra Siadati

Chap4
When we make assumptions, it is a trap. We tend to believe our assumptions represent the truth. The big false dream is based on people taking things personally and making assumptions. Fear drives us to make assumptions. We don’t want to confirm that we’re stupid and ask a “dumb” question for clarification. We make an assumption to fill that void and avoid perceived exposure.5)

The brain fog, or mitote chaos, leads us to see and hear only what we want to see and hear. Dreams are destroyed when they are based on assumptions. When the truth is revealed the dreamer is devastated. Making assumptions about your relationship can strike a fatal blow. The parties each assume what the others think and believe they are in agreement ..

طیبه احمدی

Third Agreement : Don’t make assumption.Just saying this sound easy , but I understand that it is difficult to do .It is difficult because we so often do exactly the opposite .We have all these habits and routines that we are not even aware of .Becoming aware of these habits and understanding the importace of this agreement is the first step.But understanding its importance is not enough. Informatio or an idea is merely the seed in your mind .What will really make the diffrence is action.

All the sadness and dream you have lived in your life was roored in makig assumption and taking things personally. When you transform your whole dream , magic just happens in your life.What you need comes to you easily because spirit moves freely through you .This is the mastery of intent, the mastery of the spirit , the mastery of love ,the mastery of gratitude , and the mastery of life.This is the goal of the Toltec.This is the path to personal freedom.

محبوبه امیریان

Forth chapter. The third agreement:Dont make Assupptions.
We tend to assuptions about every thing, we believe this assuption and turn them into a them into agreat disaster. Then we start gossiping about our assumptions because we afraid to ask to clarification. in all we are defending our assuption and try to make is wrong.
We imagine that every one sees life as we do.
We think think that others think like us, feel like us , judge like us, and abuse like us . Because we are afraid to be in the presence of others and we think that others blame us and sacrifice us. This is the function of the brain, we see others as we are .
The only way of free is that dont make assumption .Although it is hard, it is possible just with practice.

Atena Raoufi

first chapter:

We Are All Living In Our Own Dream

As well as accepting our dream-like living, we must also be understanding of others. Don Miguel reminds us that we are not responsible for others; we are only responsible for ourselves. If we accept we are no longer responsible for others, we will no longer be hurt by others actions. We take actions against us less personally when we know that others are only behaving based on their own dream-like living. Don Miguel describe this as being immune to other people’s emotional poison. If you avoid this emotional poison, you can move through the world with ease.

Not taking things personally also opens up the possibility for us to start trusting our hearts more to guide our lives. You will be less controlled by the opinions and actions of others. You objective reality will guide you.

Based on all these ideas, Don Miguel introduced four clear takeaway messages that should be implemented.

Atena Raoufi

1st Agreement: BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD

The First Agreement is to be impeccable with your word, and never use it against yourself or others. What does “impeccable” mean? In this context, it comes from a Latin word that means “without sin”. Being impeccable with your internal language means not judging or blaming yourself. Simply having those thoughts means you’re sinning against yourself. You need to change this, and start telling yourself how great you actually are, and giving yourself some TLC.
A key point is that we should remember is that the words we choose to use are powerful – they can liberate or enslave you and others. How many times have you told yourself you’re stupid, or no good at something? Every time you do this, you are making an agreement and choosing to stick by it.
Your words transform the way you think, and affect the opinions of others, so choose them wisely.

Atena Raoufi

2ND AGREEMENT: DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

The Second Agreement says that you won’t need to take things personally if you have a strong sense of yourself.

When people are rude to us, it can often stay in our mind for too long, and we constantly repeat the words in our heads. When you take things personally, you begin inadvertently agreeing with the slight and making it yours, even if it had nothing too do with you.

The reality is that nothing people say or do to you is actually about you – it’s all about them.

When you get upset by something someone said to you, it’s about your own fears and experiences, which makes it essential to deal with this.

Overcoming this issue means, you have to know who you are, because then you do not need to have other people’s acceptance, and nothing they say will hurt you. Everyone looks at the world from a different viewpoint, and you should recognize your own perspective in this.

Why is this such a big deal? Because, as Don Miguel Ruiz says: “Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.

Atena Raoufi

The Fourth Agreement

Always Do Your Best

 

The Fourth Agreement shows you how to put the first three into practice. This agreement is to always do your best, even if your best constantly changes.

If you were told to always do your best as a child, it was actually sound advice. Doing your best depends on the situation you are in, and is not a one-size-fits-all thing. On certain days your best will be world-beating, and on others maybe it’s just a struggle to get something positive done, but you do something.

To do your best, you should do things because you want to, not because of external motivation like a paycheck. Doing a job that you dislike just for a salary is difficult and joyless, and is sometimes the reason you will end up drinking and partying at the weekend, just to forget your frustration.

If you love the job or task you’re doing, you’ll do your best without even trying. Your work will feel effortless and you’ll perform much better. This final agreement will help you to increase the power of the other agreements while freeing yourself from old patterns.

احسان غلامی

Forth chapter:
Don’t make Assumptions, question something that you are not sure about. For example when you say hi to your family or friends and they don’t answer you back, you will make assumption that you have done something bad and they are mad at you and you have no evidence about what happened.
When you don’t understand something, you guess that you know what it means. You gather more information or evidence and you’ll see that you were completely wrong about it.
We need to replace assumptions with questions. That’s the way to get the answers we need.

Saeed Izadpanah

The fourth agreement

When we assume things about others ,they can got offended, because they don’t know what’s going on in you heads. Making assumptions just creates problems and dreams. So we make assumptions that we defend and base gossip on.
A lot of problems in relationships come from making assumptions. First we need to be aware of our habits. Ruiz think that if you make this agreement a habits, you will transform from a black magician into a white magician master your intent, spirit, love, gratitude, and life itself.

محبوبه امیریان

Fourth agreement: allways do your best
The fourth agreement is about practice of the previos 3 agreements that allows other three agreement to become habits. Allways do your best, no more and no less .even if your everyday moods your best can change from one moment to another moment.
If you try too hard, you will consume too much energy and you will probably lose.If you try less than you can, you feel guilty and regret.
And now it is not bad to pay attention to this sentence of the master said, “You are not have to sacrific your joy and your life. You are have to live, to be happy and to love . When you try your best, you feel satisfied and happy.
On the other hand, if you act only for the sake of the soul and without expecting a ward, you will enjoy every thing you do.
Remember that you have learned every thing in life through repetition. So practice the agreements every day. Don’t think about future, focus on today and live in the present.

محبوبه امیریان

The Third agreement: Don’t make assuptions We tend to assumptions about everything, we believe this assumption and turn them into a great disaster. Then we start gossiping about our assumptions because we afraid to ask to clarification. And we are defending our assuption and try ing to make another is wrong.
We imagine that every one sees life as we do .we think that others think like us, feel like us, judge like us, and abuse like us. Because we’re afraid to be in the presence of others and we think that others blame us and sacrifice us. This is the function of the brain, we see others as we are.
The only way of free is that dont make assumptions. Although it is hard, it is possible just with practice.

آخرین ویرایش 3 سال قبل توسط محبوبه امیریان
Sahar Arfaei

Fifth chapter: ( The Four Agreement)

The fourth agreement is “always do your best.” It’s important because it enables the other agreements to become habits. No matter what you’re doing, you should always do your best. It is important to remember that doing your best isn’t about overdoing it. Ruiz narrates a story of someone looking for answers who asks his teacher how long it will take him to reach his goal if he meditates four hours a day. His Master estimates he’ll need another four years to achieve that goal. Ruiz believes that life is a gift and you should be happy with it. You have the right to live your own life, regardless of whether others accept you or not. By being yourself, loving yourself and loving others, God will shine through you. Ruiz says that it’s possible to live in hell by breaking the four agreements. The Toltec wisdom states that practicing these agreements helps you master transformation, because you can transform hell into heaven and your personal dream into a dream for the planet. Ruiz advises not to beat yourself up when you fail, but instead remind yourself that you’ll try again tomorrow.

Sahar Arfaei

sixth chapter: (The Toltec Path to Freedom)
According to Ruiz, many people blame their circumstances for why they aren’t free. Yet really, the only thing that stops us from being free is ourselves, we are all capable of being as free as toddlers. Your true self is the childlike part of you that comes out when you’re having fun or expressing yourself creatively. This part of your personality doesn’t think about the past or future, but just enjoys what it’s doing in the present moment. Being a Toltec essentially means controlling your own dreams and having the power to change them if you don’t enjoy them. Ruiz compares the Judge, Victim, and our belief system to a parasite. The parasite sucks your energy in order to survive. Ruiz talks about how to kill the parasite of fear. Ruiz explains that the second way of killing a parasite is to control your own behavior. The third way to kill the parasite is by embracing death.

Ghazale Saleh

chapter 5:
The Fourth Agreement: Always do your best

  1. Keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next
  2. Sometimes your best will be high-quality, and other times it won’t be as good
  3. If you take action just for the sake of doing it without expecting a reward, you’ll find that you enjoy every action you do
  4. Rewards will come but you’re not attached to the reward
  5. You always do your best because you’ll have no regrets if someone tries to judge you
  6. Do your best because you want to do it, not because you have to do it or to please other people
  7. Action is about living fully. Inaction is the way that we deny life
  8. When you don’t do your best, you deny your right to be you 
  9. The first three agreements will only work if you do your best
  10. Children are usually the only humans truly free because they’re smiling, having fun, exploring the world, not afraid to play
  11. They don’t worry about the past and don’t care about the future, and only live in the present moment
  12. Very young children are not afraid to express what they feel
  13. They’re so loving that if they perceive love, they melt into love
  14. They are not afraid to love at all
  15. The is the description of a normal human being
  16. There is no need to blame your parents for teaching you to be like them
Ghazale Saleh

Chapter 6. The Toltec Path to Freedom
According to Ruiz, many people blame their circumstances for why they aren’t free. Yet really, the only thing that stops us from being free is ourselves—we are all capable of being as free as toddlers. Toddlers don’t care about what other people think or what will happen in the future; they just do whatever makes them happy and express themselves without fear of judgment.

The third way to kill the parasite is by embracing death. When you embrace death, it teaches you how to live life with passion and enjoyment. For example, when your doctor says that you have a week left to live, your options are either to suffer or make the most of those last days. The angel of death will teach us how to cherish our lives while we still have them.

Zahra Siadati

Chap4:
It’s hard to stop making assumptions because it’s our habit to assume. So, first, we need to be aware of habits, then we need to act differently—over and over again—until we form new habits. Ruiz thinks that if you make this agreement a habit, you will transform from a “black magician” into a “white magician” and you’ll master your intent, spirit, love, gratitude, and life itself. This mastery, which puts you on the path to freedom, is the goal of the Toltec

Ali rahbari

Chapter 1

Domestication and the dream of the plannt

Everything that humanity wants is a dream,and our mind petrally dreams about it.the dreams are framed in a linear way to awaken us to still dream.humans have the capacity to dream to focusing on our attention on the figures that teach us like our proffessors and religious.
The real meaning of dreaming is what to believe.we have to decide what’s wrong and what’s right.whats good what’s bad.these concepts lead us to understand language,which is full of arvantures.

Chapter 2

The first agreement is essential and powerful and the most challenging of four agreements to turn your reality into earth.world around us have a magical force to fulfill our dreams.
Ruiz compares words to magic that force us to spell.
Sometimes we use black magic without knowing the real meaning of it.

Chapter 3

Don’t take anything personality

For example some one call you stupid and you start thinking about it and maybe think that you are really stupid,so it looks you have been trapped because you think everything is about you.
Ruiz believed that everything people think about you is in their dream which is completely different from your dream in your mind.

Chapter 4

Don’t make assumptions

we actually think that we know others feelings and thoughts subsequently and we blame them for it.its better to ask them rather than thinking about chioas in our mind.this choas in our mind lead us to misinterpret everything.we believe only what we hear or see,but we have no basis in our real world to believe and dream.we sometimes assume that we know what people around us think about us,but it’s not like this and we call it internal conflict.

Chapter 5

Always do your best

keep it in your mind that you are always different in your moments and you are never the same and sometimes you show your best to others but some moments it won’t be as good and if you don’t expect rewards for any thing you do in your life you will enjoy from every action you do in your life.when you do your best rewards will come and you are not attached to them.
You do your best and no one can judge you.you do your best not to satisfy and please others but you do it because you want to do it.

Chapter 6

The totlec path to freedom

According to ruiz,most of the people in the world blame the problems and circumstances for why they are not free in their life,in my idea the only thing that stop us from be what we are is ourselves.we can be free like children’s.they do whatever they like and enjoy it without judging others.

Sahar Arfaei

Seventh chapter (The New Dream) :
The author tells you to forget everything that you have learned about life. You can create your own new reality and be in a state of bliss where there is no conflict with others, fear of expressing yourself or being judged, or need to control others. The way to get there is by loving yourself just as you are right now.

Mehrab Ebrahimi

Fifth chapter:
 
actually, summary of chapter five is about your best will be better when
you’re well-rested than when you’re tired, or for example. Your best will also
depend on your mood. As you build new habits, your best will also evolve.
your best also
means acting because you love it, not because you want a reward. A lot of
people don’t actually like their work, they just do it to get paid; they suffer
all week as they work because they have to, not because they want to. you
also don’t do it to please the Judge or other people. Doing your best is doing
the actions that make you happy and that authentically express what
you are. Ruiz explain what he means with the story of
Forrest Gump: Forrest didn’t always have amazing ideas but he always took
action and did his best at whatever he was doing.

Mehrab Ebrahimi

Sixth chapter:
 
Summary of this chapter is about many things, such as the government, the climate, religion, or our
parents. But really, the only thing stopping us being free is ourselves being
free is the same thing as being ourselves. Toddlers are free: they do whatever
they want to do.  Ruiz says that you don’t have to blame your
parents for domesticating you, since they, too, were domesticated. If they
acted abusively, it was out of their own fear, their own beliefs. You don’t
need to blame yourself, either, but you do need to stop the abuse you can do
this by freeing yourself from “the tyranny of the Judge” and the “role of the Victim.” Ruiz compares the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system you are domesticated with
to a parasite: it sucks your energy in order to keep itself
alive. When we realize this, we have a choice: surrender to the parasite and
“the dream of the planet,” or to rebel. Shamans of the
Americas call themselves “warriors” because they declare war on “the parasite
of the mind.”

آخرین ویرایش 3 سال قبل توسط Mehrab Ebrahimi
Mehrab Ebrahimi

Seventh chapter:
 
Summary of chapter 7 is about dream that all of us have it
in all time. Your new dream starts here. You have the power to change
right now. Use your imagination and see love pouring out of the trees, sky,
light, and other humans, even when they are in a bad mood. Living this
way, you have no conflict with others, no fear of expressing yourself or being
judged, and no need to control anybody else. you can still choose to
live in heaven or hell. Ruiz chooses heaven and asks what your choice is.
Ruiz instructs you to forget everything you’ve
ever learned.

Zahra Siadati

Chapter5:Ruiz says it’s impossible to “live in hell” when you practice the four agreements, because you’ll be 100 percent in control of your life. Toltec wisdom says that together, the four agreements enable to you to master transformation: to “transform hell into heaven,” and to transform the “dream of the planet” into your “personal dream.” You can do your best to honor the four agreements today, but it takes a strong will to keep honoring them every day because they are in conflict with the agreements that are part of “the dream of the planet.” Ruiz says that each time you fail, you shouldn’t become the Judge (and criticize yourself) or become the Victim (and feel sorry for yourself). Instead, just tell yourself that you broke the agreement but that you’ll try again.

Ghazale Saleh

Chapter 7. The New Dream;
In this chapter,Ruiz is trying to tell us forget everything that we have learned about life. We can create our own new reality and be in a state of bliss where there is no conflict with others, fear of expressing ourselves or being judged, or need to control others. The way to get there is by loving ourselves just as we are right now.he way to get there is by loving ourselves just as we are right now.how much we love our real personalities, certainly others would be in love of us, too.

Tayebeh Ahmadi

[۶/۴،‏ ۱۲:۴۶] Ahmadi: Tayebeh Ahmsdi

Chapter 3

The second Agreement

Don’t Take Anything Personally

THE NEXT THIRD AGREEMENTS ARE REALLY BORN frpm the First agreement.
The second agreement is don’t take anything personally.
[۶/۴،‏ ۱۵:۴۷] Ahmadi: When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally ,you avoid many upsets in your life.Your anger ,jealouse,and envy will disappear,and even your sadness will simply disappear if you don’t take things personally.

You can see how important this agreement is.Taking nothing personally helps you to break many habits and routines that tape you in the dream of hell and cause needless suffering .
Incocusion,if you keep this agreemen, you can say yes ,or you can say no without guilt self- judgment. You can be in the middle o hell and still experience inner peace and happiness.

Tayebeh Ahmadi

Chapter 4

THE TGIRD AGREEMENT IS DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS .

All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumption and taking things personally .

The whole war of control between humans is about making assumptions and taking things personally .Our whole dream of hell is based on that.

If you don’t understand something it is better for you to ask and be clear ,instead of making an assumption.The day you stop making assumptions you will communicate cleanly and clearly ,free of emotional poison.
Third Agreement ,just saying this sound easy ,but I understand that it is difficult to do, Because we so often do exactly the opposite.
When you transform your whole dream ,magicjust happens in your life .What you need comes to you easily because spirit moves freely through you.
This is a goal of the Toltec.this is the path to personal freedom.

Tayebeh Ahmadi

Chapter 5

The fourth Agreement is about the action of the first three:Alwayes do you best.

Just do your best – in any circumstance in your life .It doesn’t matter if you are sick or tired,if you always do your best there is no way you can judge yourself.

The Four Agreement are a summary of the masteries of the TOLTEC.You transform hell into heaven .The dream of the planet is transformed into your personal dream of heaven.The knowledge is there : it is just waiting for you to use it.The four Agreements are there: you just need to adopt these agreements and respect their meaning and power

Tayebeh Ahmadi

Chapter 6

As a result, the purpose of acting on the four agreements is to achieve freedom and peace, and not to be afraid of death, and to believe that with the arrival of the angel of death and the end of physical life, the soul continues its eternal life and reaches freedom and salvation, which is the goal of creation.

Atena Raoufi

Chapter 6:  The Toltec Path to Freedom

Ruiz explains that when we don’t feel free, we blame many things, such as the government, the climate, religion, or our parents. But really, the only thing stopping us being free is ourselves—being free is the same thing as being ourselves. Toddlers are free: they do whatever they want to do. They are also “wild”: they smile, have fun, and play without caring about the future. Toddlers think only about the present, so they aren’t afraid to express what they feel, nor are they afraid to love. These, according to Ruiz, are “normal” human tendencies.

However, when we become adults, we let the judge and the victim take charge. They prevent us from expressing our true nature, and we are no longer happy. Ruiz says that you don’t have to blame your parents for domesticating you, since they, too, were domesticated. If they acted abusively it was out of their own fear, their own beliefs. You don’t need to blame yourself, either, but you do need to stop the abuse—you can do this by freeing yourself from “the tyranny of the judge” and the “role of the victim.”

Your true self is the little child inside you that comes out when you have fun, play, or express yourself creatively. It’s the part of you that doesn’t think about the past or the future but just enjoys the present activity. The judge inhibits this expression by telling you that you have “responsibilities” like earning a living. Ruiz thinks that most people don’t even realize that the Judge and the victim are ruling their lives. The first step to freedom, therefore, is awareness that we are not free. Awareness lets us examine our beliefs and discover that most of them are “based on lies.”

Being a Toltec, essentially, is taking control of your own dream, having the power to change your life if you don’t enjoy your dream, and following no leaders but yourself. A Toltec, says Ruiz, is wise, wild, and free. Toltecs possess three types of “mastery”: “Awareness” (being aware of our true nature), “Transformation” (changing and freeing ourselves from domestication), and “Intent” (practicing unconditional love, which is the true nature of life itself).

Ruiz compares the judge, the victim, and the belief system you are domesticated with to a parasite: it sucks your energy to keep itself alive. When we realize this, we have a choice: surrender to the parasite and “the dream of the planet,” or to rebel. Shamans of the Americas call themselves “warriors” because they declare war on “the parasite of the mind.” Being a warrior doesn’t mean we win, but it means we try our best to fight the parasite. The parasite can also be described like a monster with a thousand heads—one head for each of our fears. Ruiz says there are three ways to kill the parasite and he’s going to address each one in turn.

Ruiz names the first way of killing the parasite “the art of transformation: the dream of the second attention.” Domestication is the “dream of the first attention” because the first time you used your attention, it was to create that dream. Now, however, you’re not innocent—you can choose what to believe. You can become aware of the fog and the drama in your life by noticing which beliefs limit you and exist out of fear. Those are the ones you need to start disagreeing with by turning your “demons” into “angels.” Start small, work your way up, and repeat until you have mastered this task. 

Ruiz names the second way of killing the parasite “the discipline of the warrior: controlling your own behavior.” Imagine you wake up in a good mood but then have a fight with your partner. After the fight, you feel drained and spend the rest of the day trying to get back in a good headspace. Emotions deplete your energy. The state of mind in which emotions take over is like a disease, and negative emotions are like wounds that need to be healed through forgiveness. First, we forgive others, then God, then ourselves. Forgiving someone means not having an emotional reaction when you see them. Ruiz instructs you to be like a warrior and learn to control your emotions. Have the discipline to express them at the right time rather than retaliating when provoked or repressing feelings when shamed. 

The third way of killing the parasite, Ruiz says, is known as “the initiation of the dead: embracing the angel of death.” In this method, you learn from “death,” which teaches you how to be alive. Ruiz tells you to imagine that your doctor says you have a week to live. You have two options: suffer and feel sorry for yourself or make the most of your last week and really enjoy it. Death teaches you how to make the most of every day, be open and fearless, and cherish being alive. The “initiation of the dead” kills the parasite and allows you to be resurrected alive. The angel of death teaches you that it owns your life and can take it away at any moment, which motivates you use your life while you still have it.

Atena Raoufi

Chapter 7: The New Dream

Ruiz instructs you to forget everything you’ve ever learned. Your new dream starts here. You have the power to change right now. Use your imagination and see love pouring out of the trees, sky, light, and other humans, even when they are in a bad mood. Imagine yourself living a new life in which you are completely free to be your true self and are allowed to be happy. Living this way, you have no conflict with others, no fear of expressing yourself or being judged, and no need to control anybody else. Love yourself, including your body and your emotions just the way they are right now. Living like this is “a state of bliss.” Even if you feel the parasite inside you, you can still choose to live in heaven or hell. Ruiz chooses heaven and asks what your choice is.

Zahra Siadati

Chapter5:
The last of the four agreements allows the first three agreements to become habits in your daily life. Always doing your best is good advice but remember that doing your best can vary from situation to situation. You will not always be able to achieve perfection but don’t feel ashamed or guilty about it because you are doing your best in any given situation. Your emotions, your health, your lack of sleep all play into your level of success. As you focus on doing your best, over time you will enjoy a higher level of success.
Let things come naturally. By trying too hard to do your best, you will expend too much energy and become frustrated and disappointed when you don’t attain your goals. If you do your best in any given situation..

Zahra Siadati

Chapter6:Imagine someone telling you that your words are hurtful. It is not their words that hurt them, but the wounds they suffer as a result of their own chords. Similarly, if youre talking about going crazy someone else, its actually because of your own fear that makes it important to manage those emotions. Use this exercise to identify some steps you can take to remove some of the old agreements that will hold you. Ruiz says that to find personal joy, you have to break all the agreements of fear imposed by society that currently bind you.

Farnoush Abasi

Chapter(1,2,3, and4)
Language is a code for understanding and communicating between humans. Every letter or word in any language is an agreement. Once we understand the code, our attention is hooked; and the energy is transferred from one person to another. From birth we are storing information and we are trained to accept society rules as the way it is, but there is a different way to live better and to become our true selves. If we replace the old agreements with Four effective agreements, we can feel the peace crawling into our lives! 1. Use your words perfectly 2. Don’t personalize anything ( don’t take anything in person)
3. Don’t assume everything 4. Always do your best

Words are incredibly powerful. They can be used for good or to hurt others or ourselves. In this
way, we can think of them as Black Magic or White Magic. Words are like seeds in a fertile
human mind: We can plant goodness or fear. This first agreement asks us to be impeccable with
our words. This is the agreement which can change our entire life.
What does it mean to be impeccable with our words??
It’s about saying exactly what you mean and speak clearly with integrity.
Sounds easy, right? But it’s the hardest agreement because we’ve learned exactly the opposite.
We are usually careless with our words. We don’t want to hurt somebody’s feelings, but
sometimes we forget about words’ power and this is the truth: something cruel said once in an
offhand manner can have lasting impact on someone’s life. Similarly, something said with truth
and beauty can have lasting impact. And it’s not just about using words to hurt others,
intentionally or unintentionally. We often use the power of the words against ourselves. Like:
I’m fat…I’m ugly…I’m… . Little by little these words weaken us like a toxin.
The worst Black Magic of the words is gossip. Gossip is Pure Poison but it’s popular and even
fun. It’s like a computer virus. After it works your computer is vulnerable and in danger.
So, avoid gossiping, saying to yourself bad words and be impeccable with your words.

The second agreement is to avoid taking everything in person. People are different from each other and each person has his/her attitude. If a person calls you something bad, it’s their own problem and they are not seriously calling you stupid. If you feel good about yourself everything becomes good.

The next step or agreement is to ask question instead of making assumptions. If you want to get the best result, you have to stop jumping into conclusion when something happens. The fact is that nobody can read our mind also we cannot make assumptions about people’s behaviour.

Farnoush Abasi

Chapter (1,2,3, and4)

Language is a code for understanding and communicating between humans. Every letter or word in any language is an agreement. Once we understand the code, our attention is hooked; and the energy is transferred from one person to another. From birth we are storing information and we are trained to accept society rules as the way it is, but there is a different way to live better and to become our true selves. If we replace the old agreements with Four effective agreements, we can feel the peace crawling into our lives! 1. Use your words perfectly 2. Don’t personalize anything ( don’t take anything in person)
3. Don’t assume everything 4. Always do your best

Words are incredibly powerful. They can be used for good or to hurt others or ourselves. In this
way, we can think of them as Black Magic or White Magic. Words are like seeds in a fertile
human mind: We can plant goodness or fear. This first agreement asks us to be impeccable with
our words. This is the agreement which can change our entire life.
What does it mean to be impeccable with our words??
It’s about saying exactly what you mean and speak clearly with integrity.
Sounds easy, right? But it’s the hardest agreement because we’ve learned exactly the opposite.
We are usually careless with our words. We don’t want to hurt somebody’s feelings, but
sometimes we forget about words’ power and this is the truth: something cruel said once in an
offhand manner can have lasting impact on someone’s life. Similarly, something said with truth
and beauty can have lasting impact. And it’s not just about using words to hurt others,
intentionally or unintentionally. We often use the power of the words against ourselves. Like:
I’m fat…I’m ugly…I’m… . Little by little these words weaken us like a toxin.
The worst Black Magic of the words is gossip. Gossip is Pure Poison but it’s popular and even
fun. It’s like a computer virus. After it works your computer is vulnerable and in danger.
So, avoid gossiping, saying to yourself bad words and be impeccable with your words.

The second agreement is to avoid taking everything in person. People are different from each other and each person has his/her attitude. If a person calls you something bad, it’s their own problem and they are not seriously calling you stupid. If you feel good about yourself everything becomes good.

The next step or agreement is to ask question instead of making assumptions. If you want to get the best result, you have to stop jumping into conclusion when something happens. The fact is that nobody can read our mind also we cannot make assumptions about people’s behaviour.

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